Tony Robbins meets Oprah Winfrey and shares the six basic human needs

Don’t you just love Youtube?! I know I do.

Getting access to shows such as Friends, 24 or House in Japan is a breeze thanks to iTunes or the local video store (do we still call it that these days?).

But what about those one-off episodes?

When I heard that Tony Robbins was going to be on Oprah, I thought about asking a friend to TIVO it for me, but then I realized that all had to do was wait.

Lo and behold, a little while later guess what popped up on Youtube?


The show is good regardless of whether you’re a Tony Robbins fan or not. It is insightful and it will make you think. (I’ve embedded the first part below, there are 11 in total).

Oprah herself admits that she intended to stay only a few hours but ended up staying there the entire day so that says something.

As I have nearly all of his products, much of what I heard on the show was review for me but that didn’t stop me from taking notes.

This time round what stood out to me most was when he talked about our basic needs, or to put it a little more strongly – our drives.

Robbins talks about 6, of which each of us has 2 that predominately motivate us.

They are:

  1. Love
  2. Certainty
  3. Uncertainty (or to put it another way, Adventure)
  4. Significance
  5. Growth
  6. Contribution

After talking about them with his audience, he asked everyone to discuss with a partner which were their two dominant needs. As Oprah talked with her friend and coworker, I thought about which were mine.

It didn’t take me long to realize that mine were contribution and love.

Contribution probably being the stronger of the two.

That’s why I write this blog. That’s why I wrote my book, iSucceed. And that’s why I’m busy working on my seminars.

I feel so much pride when I hear that I’m able to be a positive influence in the lives of others.

Watching my clients grow into stronger, wiser and more successful individuals, really excites me. It drives me to look for more answers because the better they get, the better I must become in order to keep helping them.

I never want the day to come that people think I’m replaceable. Just the opposite in fact – I strive to be irreplaceable.

A while back I heard Keith Cunningham talk about how the Nobel Peace Prize came about.

Nobel and his twin brother had been known as the creators of dynamite, but upon his brother’s death, he was forced to ask himself how he wanted to be remembered.

Not wanting to be remembered for all the destruction he caused, he set out to change that.

Today, very few people are aware that Nobel did anything other than create an award for good.

When I heard this story I decided to ask myself the same question, “How do I want to be remembered?”

My answer – I want to be remembered as someone who cared. Someone who cared about his family, his friends and his clients.

That’s what gets me up each day; to see if I can make a difference in someone’s life.

People who know me know I’m not always easy to deal with. I’m tough. I expect a lot out of people. I expect results.

But what I hope is that everyone knows that I do what I do out of love.

Because I love them, I push them to be the best they can be.

In other words, “Tough love.”

Like a parent with their child. They must be both loving and tough.

I know that’s not for everyone, but that’s me.

Contribution and love.

What drives you?

Adrian Shepherd

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